Honestly… Enough with all the hard work! Do you know these simple tricks to receive more affection and enjoy heart-melting intimacy? 1. Greet your partner in a way that creates deeper connection. Pay attention to how you greet your partner. Is it with a list of chores? Or problems? Or just a sideways ‘Hi’ without any eye contact? What to do instead: Stop what you are doing; your partner deserves a minute of your undivided attention. Look at them, smile, hug and hold them dearly while hugging for at least 10 seconds (champions go for a whole minute! Let me know if it’s you here). This is better done in silence. Your relationship will benefit immensely! And this will only take … Read More
How can I love you more?
How can I love you more? This is the question that came to me today. I realised; until now my question was “How can I get more love?” And what conditions need to be satisfied before I’m ready to love. I’ve been asking my partner to give me more love and attention. To give me safety. And only then I’d be open to love. Now, my question is “How can I express my love? How can I love you more?” And I see how everyone, everyone, gives me a chance to love more. When my children are acting out and fighting, they are giving me an opportunity to love them more. When my partner is upset with me and … Read More
13 Things You Need To Give Up If You Want To Enjoy A Deeply Connected & Loving Relationship
You finally found it… Give them up or destroy your love. 1. Compromising Maybe when you were single, you loved going dancing. Now that you are in a relationship and you know that you partner prefers you to stay at home with you, you stopped dancing to please them. Though you really really miss dancing. This is compromising. Dictionary definition of ‘compromise’ – an agreement or settlement of a dispute that is reached by each side making concessions. Meaning of ‘concession’ – the act of admitting a defeat, the act of giving up. Have you heard this myth that relationships are about compromising? It surely makes us resentful and less present in the relationship. It makes couples fantasize about breaking up … Read More
Want to get the spark back? Enjoy 247% more excitement with this secret.
Do you yearn to get the spark back? I’ve just finished working with a couple and it’s amazing how their relationship changed! They can’t stop giggling and looking at each other with fondness. Oh, this brings so much joy to my heart! When we get older, the name of the game is deeper and deeper connection. How can I show myself more? How can I open up more? How can I provide a safe environment for my partner, so he or she can open up more? If you lost that spark, you need to ask yourself: how emotionally connected do I feel? If there is distance, you need to work on enhancing your connection. The variety in committed relationships comes … Read More
The Women’s Day, 8th of March.
I have a dream. It reminds me of spring time in Russia. The Women’s Day, 8th of March. Women are smiling, happy and radiant. Men are walking on the streets with flowers, looking at every woman as a precious beautiful Gift. The look in men’s eyes allows women to feel even more beautiful and loved. Women appreciate men for that. They start to see the best in men. Women start to feel that “ahhh” in their hearts and become even more beautiful and graceful. Seeing so much beauty, men start to adore women even more. The sun is smiling; the snow is melting. And so it goes on. Love and beauty grow until the day becomes overwhelmingly magical and all … Read More
Your attention is precious
Your attention is precious. It’s more important than time. Don’t put your attention on the things that are not important. What do you want to create in your life? Put your attention there. Don’t waste it. Do you want love and connection? Or problems and arguments? Friendship and joy? Or stress and tiredness? What is one small action that you can do today to create more of what you want? Comment below to give each other some ideas. Do you need more ideas? Join us for 3-hour “Fire Up Your Relationship to Enjoy Heart-to-Heart Connection and an Exciting Love Life” in Westmere, Auckland on Sunday 28 August at 3pm. Tarisha Re-Ignite Your Love Coach Relationship Counselling Auckland P.S. Need … Read More
It’s crucial to have fun as a couple
How much fun are you having as a couple? How much fun did you use to have? Do you know that laughing together creates deeper connection and allow us to resolve the issues with more ease? Post your best tips for having fun as a couple below! And if you need some inspiration to create more excitement and deeper intimacy in your relationship, join me for a “Fire Up Your Connection” couples workshop in Auckland on 8th November. Register here >> https://deeplyinloveagain.com/free-couples-workshop/ Tarisha Tourok Relationship counselling Auckland
True growing edge
The growing edge of humanity is not in figuring out how to build new machines, it’s in learning how to connect and love no matter what. Can we accomplish this big task by ourselves? I don’t think so. To truly transform our intimate relationships we need support of those who can show us our blind spots. It’s impossible to change our relationships just by learning skills. We need to be able to deal with our emotions. Because if we get upset with our partner, we forget all the skills and become pure emotion, we jump into our primal brain and using skills requires us to be in our logical brain. We all get disconnected, we all get upset. What we … Read More
Do you create deeper connection or push your partner away?
It’s almost spring in New Zealand! Can you feel love in the air? Do you create more connection in your relationship by listening and being curious, or do you push your partner away by disregarding his opinions? Attentive listening makes our partner feel safe and open up to us emotionally. A man puts his experience and himself into his opinions. It’s an expression of who he is. Like for us our feelings are an expression of who we are. We hate it when men try to change or fix our feelings and tell us we shouldn’t feel this way…true? Same goes for men; they put themselves into their opinions and feel disrespected and unappreciated when we try to change their opinions. … Read More