We all need to feel safe & secure: it is a basic human need. For women safety is very important; when we feel secure we are free to open up and can dive deep into our feminine side. That’s why we love strong men, we feel secure and able to let go.
Men need to feel secure as well. They need to know that they are loved unconditionally and that we are there for them. When your man makes a mistake or is struggling, do you take that moment to tear him down or to build him up? Does he know you got his back, that you are there for him?
Sometimes my partner waits to the last minute to work on projects and then is very stressed out by all he has to do. Instead of teasing him and saying ‘I told you so’ I try to be as supportive as I can in that moment and help him with moral support. This is a way I show him, ‘babe, I’m here to support you through it all’!
Certainty is important but, of course, there is a catch!
We all also have the opposite need of certainty, variety. We get bored doing the same thing over and over again. That’s how passion dies and we start noticing more and more hot guys around. For men variety is a huge need. They thrive on variety. It is their biological need. How much variety do you provide for your man?
What you can do here is explore different sides of your nature. Play Virgin Mary, play a wild, passionate women tearing his t-shirt, or give him some nourishing motherly energy – it is all inside you; we women are very multidimensional. Don’t get stuck in the rut of being the same woman year in and year out.
Create some variety!
Role playing opens up new possibilities. More importantly it shows us that what we thought about ourselves is not exactly true. We do have other sides to ourselves that were dormant for years because they were not part of our identity. Role playing allows us to reclaim these forgotten parts and make us whole. We gain more vibrancy, more spice and step into our authenticity.
It’s the difference between two dimensional and three dimensional movies. Most of us live two dimensional lives and wonder why we feel stuck and only half-alive.
Explore the fullness of your own being!
What are you going to do? A good way to start is to act as a man while your man explores his feminine side. This will allow you to feel what it is like to be in a male body. You won’t have to think about what men feel and want. You will have a direct experience of what it is. Just dress appropriately and start pretending. Have fun!