Is it true that our sex life becomes a predictable routine with time? Does it have to be this way? Human beings have two conflicting needs: certainty (safety) and uncertainty (variety). Love and intimacy require a great amount of safety to flourish. Passion, on the other hand, thrives on variety and uncertainty. The question is, how can we balance these two needs to create deep intimacy and keep the passion alive? Always acting the same way, touching each other the same way, and even moaning the exact same way is dreadful to any relationship. Life becomes mechanical. We move on autopilot thinking we know all the corners, and there will be nothing unpredictable. It’s like driving on the same round … Read More
Change who you are being, not what you are doing
Forcing ourselves into behaving differently doesn’t really work. A secret here is to change the way we are with our partner so that we naturally start to relate to them in a different way.
Our children need to see love to learn how to love
Our children need to see love to learn how to love. If parents do not love each other, it’ll be harder for children to have loving relationships in their lives. They need role models. If we are not happy in our relationship, that’s what our children learn—that family and partnership is not a happy place to be.
He needs to change!
Can we really expect our partners to change and make our relationship work for us? Hmm. Have you tried? I reckon the mature way is to reclaim our own power and create a relationship of our dreams, without trying to force our partners to change.
The art of love
“The art of love is an emotional midwifery. We hold each other as we emerge together into the light of a new life, both exhilarating and terrifying.” Marianne Williamson
The First Step to Turn Your Relationship Around
You can only change your relationship if you take full responsibility for it. Nothing else matters. It is possible to create the relationship you’ve always wanted. This power is in your hands. Think about it; you can even create life! In ancient times a woman was revered as a goddess because she could create life. The role of men in procreation was unknown, and people believed women mysteriously created life inside their wombs. Women were revered as powerful and magical beings. You are a powerful, magnetic, and sensual woman. This is the life you cannot avoid: you were born in a woman’s body. You were given the gift of creativity, and if you don’t use it, there is a cost … Read More
I Felt Bored and Stuck. Now Our Relationship is Better Than 29 Years Ago.
Jo and Richard have been married for twenty-nine years. They have two grown children. Here is their story, as told by Jo, my client. Our first session I don’t know what’s happening. I feel bored and stuck. We love each other; I know we love each other. And we feel comfortable with each other. But what is this longing? As if I’m missing something. You know, sex became so mechanical. I know exactly what’s going to happen. It’s booooring! How did we come to this place? I feel like I don’t want to continue like this anymore. I want to feel excitement, passion. I want to enjoy making love with my husband. But it feels like that’s it. We had … Read More
Do You Know What Drives Your Man? An Essential Secret for You
Hello Gorgeous! Men love seeing their woman happy. And they love to be the reason for her happiness. When they make us happy, they feel much happier if they just did something for themselves. Just know their intent is always good; it’s their lack of knowledge that hurts us and makes us feel unloved. It is hard for men to admit that they have no idea about something or that they don’t know how to resolve a problem. In other words, your partner might never ask you what you need in order to feel happy. He might try different things that won’t work for you and in turn, he may feel inadequate for not being able to make you happy. He’ll … Read More
Appreciate Your Partner!
Start to appreciate the small things your partner does for you – you will get more of them .
Are You Playing Hard to Get and Destroy Your Relationship?
We’ve all heard of playing hard to get, but in reality, withdrawing your love and attention will only end up killing trust and intimacy. Instead of allowing your partner’s lack of attentiveness to ruin your self-esteem, breathe deeply and remember what a beautiful, lovable woman you are! Make an effort to feel good about yourself, and your confident vibe will soon have a positive effect on your partner. If you have been letting your partner’s mood affect yours, then you are allowing him too much control over your life. Think about other aspects of your life that make you happy and share your happiness with your partner. Remember, you can still act lovingly and affectionately to him without demanding his … Read More
