Does your partner understand you and what you need? Do you blame him for not understanding you?
Do you understand your partner and what he/she needs?
Think of your man.
- Do you know what your man values in life?
- What drives him in life?
- What’s important to him?
- Does he have any goals?
- Is he trying to achieve something?
Ask him. Let him talk. It can take him a while to get started. Don’t offer your view or suggestions after his first sentence. Wait and listen. I know it can be very hard; I count up to ten to make it easier for me not to interrupt.
What we often do is ask a question, and then when a man doesn’t reply straight away, we suggest an answer or give him a multiple-choice option. We don’t know that men take our questions seriously and want to think before replying. Our interruption tactic disturbs his thought process, frustrates him, and makes him feel that his answer is not important. He starts to wonder, Why did she ask me in the first place if she’s not interested in hearing what I have to say? And then we wonder why is he not talking to us?