Is it true that our sex life becomes a predictable routine with time? Does it have to be this way?

Human beings have two conflicting needs: certainty (safety) and uncertainty (variety). Love and intimacy require a great amount of safety to flourish. Passion, on the other hand, thrives on variety and uncertainty. The question is, how can we balance these two needs to create deep intimacy and keep the passion alive?

Always acting the same way, touching each other the same way, and even moaning the exact same way is dreadful to any relationship. Life becomes mechanical. We move on autopilot thinking we know all the corners, and there will be nothing unpredictable. It’s like driving on the same round for the hundredth time—our consciousness drifts away from the driving, leaving our hands, legs, and eyes to act mechanically.

Is this how we want to make love?