WARNING: I’m not your ordinary relationship coach from New Zealand, giving you advice on what to say to your man or how to look at him in a way you hope will make him love you more. I focus on who you are in the relationship rather than on what you do. We can change our behaviour, but if we don’t change what we believe about ourselves and life, nothing will really change.
Simply adjusting our behaviour can be superficial, manipulative, and hard to sustain. Some relationship coaches tell you, for example, not to criticise your man and to appreciate him. How on earth are we supposed to do that if we feel that he doesn’t care, and he behaves in ways that hurt us? We need to first understand why our partner is doing what he is doing and find a way to step into a state of love and appreciation. Only then can we authentically appreciate him.
This applies to all areas of our lives. That’s why people struggle with losing weight. They go on a diet, and it works for a while. Then they gain all their weight back and more. It’s because their inner belief structure and motivation hasn’t changed, and without it, sustaining the diet is very hard if not impossible.
I don’t ask you to will yourself into behaving differently. I offer you the blueprint for changing the way you are with your man so that you naturally start to relate to him in a different way. This is the foundation on which it will be easy for you to create a harmonious relationship. I will also reveal secrets about men and the art of building a loving, intimate relationship, but the foundation is the most important part.
You can apply my Reignite System to any of your relationships, not just your intimate relationship. The foundational principles of the system will support you in changing your relationships with your colleagues, your children, your relatives, and, most importantly, yourself. It will empower you to live the life of your dreams by creating the world and life you want.
I don’t offer you a quick fix; you will need to do the work and uncover what blocks you from having the relationship you always wanted. All the answers are inside you.
I share with you how to reclaim your power and create the relationship of your dreams, without trying to force your man to change.
Ready to jump?
With a warm hug,
Tarisha Tourok
Relationship Coach New Zealand